ShinjiStranglesAsuka wrote:I guess that's a good point. He was relatively ok with the state of the world until Fuyu mindfucked him by telling him that's Rei Q is not his Rei, after which he broke down.
Really? Is that your take?
Does he remotely look "okay with it" to you? Is there anything 'okay with it' about his expressions when he sees the city or the chaos in his room afterward?
He's may be trying to defend himself in the aftermath of the shock ("But I had good intentions"! I was trying to do a good thing!")
But trying to think some up detail to cling to is itself a symptom of utter despair & guilt, denial and bargaining being natural stages of grief and all that, temporary stages that don't last long before he has to face the full despair.
It's sad, it's human. And I bet 90% of ppl who sneer in a superior manner & think they would do so much better are deluded.
Fuyutsuki dumps a lot more disturbing info on him, like that both his parents have been using him as a puppet in some shady plan since birth, that the terrifying EVA 01 and his mom are the same person, that Rei is artificial (and dead, at least the one he knows)...
That's just the straw that broke the camel's back, another bucketload of horror in such short succession that he couldn't take it anymore.
I'm not sure that any change to that scene would stop ppl ruling it "narcissistic" by default because they've decided a priori that Rei represents "escapism" & generally overstate that whole motif. It's hope, we're outright told its hope (along a host of other things; This isn't a simple one-note character but someone with her own sad story) and "communication" (as per that snippet about ep 6) that actually fits very well with the entire arc.
BusterMachine4 wrote: he latched onto it, expecting Rei to give him unconditional love forever.
Whohohoa you making a lost of fast-paced assumptions there like what do you base that on?
Like where does he ever make demands like that? It's not like he told her to come with him when he left NERV, he gave up on everything, Rei included so if anything his error lies in the other direction at least in this specific situation.
Where is the expectation there?
The closest thing maybe could be when he's upset that ReiQ doesn't respond to his attempts to interact with her but that's really muddied by the identical stranger situation.
It just seems like "fair world" fallacy all the way down. If it had a bad result clearly his intentions would have been rotten.... like that isn't in itself super childish reasoning.
Sometimes consequences happen regardless of your intentions that's the whole POINT
LightDragonman wrote:I just take an issue with the decision of framing Shinji relationship with Rei as being some sort of psychologically unhealthy thing and that he needs to either never try to form a friendship with her or forget about her entirely and let her remain a distant unfeeling machine, less he be some sort of selfish mentally unstable wacko.
I mean, yeah he's mentally messed up already, but I saw his attempts to grow closer to Rei as being heartwarming, as through it, both characters slowly started to open up to others, and Rei herself became much more human. But apparently, all of her development is pointless and wasn't even worth happening in the first place, lest Shinji become the killer of millions over her.
I assure you you're not the only one.
I agree with most of this though I would resent the notion that she wasn't human to begin with, just lonely inexperienced and resigned to a life of suffering and dissapearing without anyone noticing that she was even there.
She's there, having her moving own story, & ppl basically treat her as a carrot on a stick to lure Shinji into a trap. Basically like Gendo was doing.