EGF's House of Lonely Hearts

[chaosakita]

He's my crush. And I have a lot of reasons for like him and he unblocked me on Facebook. The he's friends with ex, but refuses to take her back, he gained his best friend back and everything is back to normal. I like him because he's smart, handsome, funny, sweet, we're both into anime, videogames, movies, etc. We get along great, have a lot in common.

You seem really clingy, and frankly, immature. And really being stuck in a limbo isn't good for anyone. Contrary to what the movies say if he doesn't like you back already, I don't see how that's going to change.

[Princess Asuka]

You seem really clingy, and frankly, immature. And really being stuck in a limbo isn't good for anyone. Contrary to what the movies say if he doesn't like you back already, I don't see how that's going to change.

We share the same feelings for each other. And I'll admit I have attachment issues, but there's no need to call me immature.

[chaosakita]

We share the same feelings for each other. And I'll admit I have attachment issues, but there's no need to call me immature.

If you actually share the same feelings, you wouldn't have this problem with each other. If you're still being friendzoned then I think something else is going on here. I don't see what's so hard to see about this, and I'm not sure what you want people to say. That all of your problems are justified and they're a sign that your friend is going to make a move soon? Are you sure you didn't misclick the year for your birthday while registering?

Anyways, since this thread is about relationship problems, I got black out drunk for the first time last week and apparently told my ex a lot of embarrassing things according to my boyfriend. I really hope I didn't say anything too bad that would damage our relationship, but I have no idea how to do damage control since I don't remember anything and can't ask anyone who knows.

[Chuckman]

I really hope I didn't say anything too bad that would damage our relationship, but I have no idea how to do damage control since I don't remember anything and can't ask anyone who knows.

Been there, done that. It's a bitch, ain't it?

[Princess Asuka]

If you actually share the same feelings, you wouldn't have this problem with each other. If you're still being friendzoned then I think something else is going on here. I don't see what's so hard to see about this, and I'm not sure what you want people to say. That all of your problems are justified and they're a sign that your friend is going to make a move soon? Are you sure you didn't misclick the year for your birthday while registering?

Look, it's not my fault he wants to start as friends first before starting a relationship. And he's got high standards and he's moving to Florida and I have no clue when. And please stop with the insults! I actually am 22, I was born in 1992.

[chaosakita]

Look, it's not my fault he wants to start as friends first before starting a relationship. And he's got high standards and he's moving to Florida and I have no clue when. And please stop with the insults! I actually am 22, I was born in 1992.

I'm...just really baffled. I have no idea what to say. I just can't believe you're older than me, I guess.

I'm not trying to be insulting when I'm not pussyfooting around your issues. I acknowledge I don't know you too well, but from what you've said, your problem seems to be you think you are in some sort of shojo manga situation where you can work hard for the guy's love and he'll fall back in love with you and you'll live happily after ever.

Also, a big source of confusion for me about your age was that I didn't know that people unironically called people senpai and kohai past the age of 15, but I guess those are weebs for you.

[robersora]

Also, a big source of confusion for me about your age was that I didn't know that people unironically called people senpai and kohai past the age of 15, but I guess those are weebs for you.

Yeah, this is a very embarrassing thing to do if you're not living in Japan, you should really stop doing that, Princess.
On the other hand, chaosakita, you could have pointed out the (granted) strangeness of Princess Asuka's perception of life in a kinder way. Also it's kinda funny talking about the level of maturity, when in the same post you're admitting, you have been badmouthing your ex while being caned.
Not to say, I don't know how it feels the day after having talked too much while getting drunk. But I guess that happens to everyone now and then. Best advice I can give you, try talking to your ex casually and try to address that situation. Maybe you're lucky, he was drunk as well and doesn't remember anything.

[Shinoyami65]

And he's got high standards and he's moving to Florida and I have no clue when.

Well, to be brutally honest if he's moving away and you haven't started a serious relationship yet then there's not much chance you ever will when he's a significant distance away from you. Long-distance relationships take a lot of effort to sustain.

Better to cast your net out again and move on rather than sitting in a sinking ship, waiting for it to rise.

[chaosakita]

Well, to be brutally honest if he's moving away and you haven't started a serious relationship yet then there's not much chance you ever will when he's a significant distance away from you. Long-distance relationships take a lot of effort to sustain.

Better to cast your net out again and move on rather than sitting in a sinking ship, waiting for it to rise.

I agree with this x10000.

On the other hand, chaosakita, you could have pointed out the (granted) strangeness of Princess Asuka's perception of life in a kinder way. Also it's kinda funny talking about the level of maturity, when in the same post you're admitting, you have been badmouthing your ex while being caned.
Not to say, I don't know how it feels the day after having talked too much while getting drunk. But I guess that happens to everyone now and then. Best advice I can give you, try talking to your ex casually and try to address that situation. Maybe you're lucky, he was drunk as well and doesn't remember anything.

I don't know what you're talking about with badmouthing. I said I might have wanted to have a threesome.


And according to my boyfriend, apparently my ex is fine with me even after talking to him drunk. And it's not like they're random acquaintances; they know each other very well.

I wouldn't say it's my proudest moment, but plenty of 20-somethings have such situations and do thinks like drunk text their exes and whatnot. And that percentage is definitely much higher than those who speak weaboo Japanese. I think I underestimated how much I was pouring on an empty stomach, so I'll try not to do that again.

[Vegeta 20XX]

So another few months pass and I'm still in the same boat as always. Somehow I'm just intrinsically repulsive to others, point-blank, and I think other people subconsciously pickup my loneliness as an avoidance cue.

The past two and a half years of my life have been a train of mistakes - I'd honestly rather have taken back my batshit ex-GF the five fucking times she asked, and now she won't speak to me and that female friend of mine I was super-obsessed about before doesn't really consider me important or special in any way, even as a friend. My opinion doesn't really matter to her, and though she'd never admit to it, I assume she give exactly zero fucks about my life issues. She'd rather hang out and talk to any other friend but me, and it's exacting a heavier toll than I expected it would. I'm basically useless as a friend to her, and she doesn't really care either way, which doesn't help given that I value myself mostly for what I can do for others and the opinions of said others as a result - I feel almost hated by my closest friends, one of whom I've on-and-off-again been hellbent on giving my heart to, and the closest thing I have to reliable companionship is my fucking DOG (mind you, my dog is a little sweetheart).

I know I'm going to die alone, but do I have to live alone too?

[InstrumentalityOne]

Letting people go that are bad for ya is sort of to really satisfying

[Monk Ed]

Got more to share on that story?

[Princess Asuka]

I don't know what to do anymore guys, I thought last week's fight yesterday was way worse. He got mad and blocked my number cause I accidentally yelled at him while trying to get his attention, I wanted things to go back to cute flirty stage. Anyhow, he got mad cause I complain at him when he talks about other and that I should trust him more cause it's just talk and not action. And yes I should trust him more. Despite my attempts at apologizing he won't answer my Facebook messages and liked a post where I noted I was feeling stressed. I just wanna be happy, even though bad things happen when I'm around him I can't stay mad him. Plus, I have a thing for bad boys. I just want this stupid fight to end all already! Stuff that is so minor, we get so pissed off about, like him getting mad that I'm not good at expressing my feelings. He said he would unblock me but I'm still waiting on that. And as for last week's fight, he said I love you to me when he didn't even mean it. He did it because he didn't wanna lose me, didn't know what to say, so he lied to me and faked to be my bf for two days. Though he says me forcing him to tell me how he felt is worse. I just want him back, I'm tired of crying.

[Sorrow]

If it's that hard already, and you already do things that annoy him to the point of blocking or ignoring you, do you really think it's worth the effort? People can grow fonder over time, but this doesn't sound like one of those times. It's far too negative a way to start things off.

People don't get less annoyed with each other's faults as time goes; they get more so.

[Rosenakahara]

The man is not worth the effort, put simply: he is a douchebag.
You are 22, you have a fuckton of years to find much better people to get with, being with someone as arrogant sounding as him just because he pretends to like you will only feed his ego and make your life terrible.
You are not in a proper relationship yet so drop him before it's too late.

[delispin25]

The man is not worth the effort, put simply: he is a douchebag.
You are 22, you have a fuckton of years to find much better people to get with, being with someone as arrogant sounding as him just because he pretends to like you will only feed his ego and make your life terrible.
You are not in a proper relationship yet so drop him before it's too late.

I don't think he's a douchebag, if my girlfriend treated me that way, I'd probably do the same. He's probably trying his best to avoid her, yet he keeps being pulled in, reassuring himself that things will be different, only to find it's the same. It'd be pretty discouraging. I don't think it has anything to do with ego or making her life terrible. If she feels that way, she could easily stop communication with him and this would be over. If anyone is having their ego fed, I'd say it's her. People on this forum constantly giving her a good old pat on the back and telling her she can do no wrong, would most likely feed her ego. She keeps shrugging off her short comings and focusing on his, or just not mentioning her mistakes at all. Seems pretty egotistical to me.

[Sailor Star Dust]

Honestly, it sound like you've been in so many relationships or budding romances the past year (your long distance one that ended, the guy you liked at the video game shop, etc) that you need to just take a break from dating and focus on yourself.

Enjoy your own life, find the things that help you personally improve, get into hobbies and interests outside of anime/manga/etc.

It'll really help you in the long run--and you might even find a great relationship in the process because you weren't looking for one and instead focused on self-betterment.

[Ray]

I always feel lonely around Christmas.

[Vegeta 20XX]

Honestly, it sound like you've been in so many relationships or budding romances the past year (your long distance one that ended, the guy you liked at the video game shop, etc) that you need to just take a break from dating and focus on yourself.

Enjoy your own life, find the things that help you personally improve, get into hobbies and interests outside of anime/manga/etc.

It'll really help you in the long run--and you might even find a great relationship in the process because you weren't looking for one and instead focused on self-betterment.

To be honest, this advice more or less applies to most users who post here, more so the bold part at least as far as I'm concerned (I've heard this from several different people in many different ways).

Naturally, I deflect such advice by stating some way in which I insist I can't do so or flatly rejecting it wholesale. In all seriousness, though, I really wish I knew more people in my area who are into Evangelion...

[moonwolf2024]

Ditto. I'm so loving myself right now. I was pretty depressed not too long ago but decided i needed to kick that. That shits not healthy. You gotta start doing things for you and giving yourself love. Even experiment and do things out of the box. It might be too much for some but i went to my first fetish club last week. It was AMAZING! I'm so going again. It was such a freeing experience. You gotta try it.