Bagheera wrote:Princess, if you're comfortable telling us, what exactly are your brother's issues? Or, if you don't want to give specifics, can you tell us if his behavioral problems are a result of his disabilities? I ask because the remedies available to you are different if that's the case. Also, what steps have your parents taken in the past to address his violent outbursts? Are your psychologist and his in any sort of contact (or perhaps the same person)? It seems clear your brother needs treatment he isn't getting, so explaining the problem as clearly as possible to your parents and your psychologist will be a good way to help them determine what he needs so he can relax and stop being so aggressive toward everyone.
Finally, you seem to be leaning against it anyway, but just to reiterate: violence is not a good idea in your situation. It can work well against bullies who don't have to deal with you if they don't care to, but you have to live with this person for the foreseeable future and, moreover, he's an individual with mental problems. Attacking him will likely upset him even more, leading to more frequent and more violent episodes until one of you is seriously injured. You need to find the source of the problem and deal with it so that you can both live in peace; fighting him won't accomplish that.
Good luck.
I don't what his issues are exactly, but he swears a lot, gets angry a lot, if angered, he can get violent, often annoys me and my sister, but me and him just don't get along. :/ My sister's twin brother has substance abuse issues and anger issues, he got mad at me a few weeks ago and threw my desk chair at me. He thinks he's better than all of us and gets annoyed with my youngest brother a lot. The youngest brother will often act as my parent's spy and be a constant tattletale. His psychologist is in the same office as mine, but I'm not sure if they communicate. :/ I think he has also been hospitalized, but he reverted back to his current behavior after getting out. The kid loves violence, in movies, games, and inappropriate TV shows. As a result, he fails to understand Classic Disney movies, Mary Poppins, being the most recent example and when we saw Saving Mr. Banks he couldn't figure out that the man in the flashbacks was the author's father and he said both films were stupid and terrible. Also the kid is the no fun police, I can't do anything I enjoy because it annoys him, watch anime, he says it's stupid, listen to music and sing, he complains and throws stuff at me, read manga, see it's stupid, etc. I have no freedom because this kid is a disciplinarian and thinks he can parent me. Also, he hardly ever gets punished, it's alwayss me for some unknown reason.
As for fighting, I don't fight because I know I'll get hurt. My mom told me yesterday, don't react to him and we'll discuss what to do about him as a family. She doesn't want me to put the family in a situation where the authorities could be involved, but rather try and solve it first.
