In discussing the movies' treatment of Rei, and how her rescue was framed as in the third film, it seems that the common consensus around here is that it was made to have Shinji unknowingly kill billions in his attempt to save her mainly in order to push the characters to their absolute limit. Ignoring how brushing off billions of people dead feels extremely tasteless, essentially, what I'm to take away from the whole situation is simply that it is meant to test Shinji and explore the topic of guilt and all that. Plus, it's to see how the characters crack when placed in the most extreme circumstances.
Thing is, that ignores the clear meta-commentary. Remember, Rei is meant to be a symbol for the stereotypical submissive waifu that otaku idolize, alongside a symbol for escapism. Since Anno hates those, it only makes sense that he hates Rei as well, and the meta-commentary proves it. And I quote.
And one of Eva's original core messages was "Human relationships are hard, they hurt and you have to open yourself up to that hurt or you never get any of the good parts". Rei is not human, Rei can never be human. She is picking your 2D incest waifu over a 3d woman. When Shinji picks Rei over the rest of humanity he is making a bad decision. And then when we see the effects later, Rei is just mass produced any way. She's still an alien, she's still a clone. His attachment to the fake doomed the real. And Eva has always said picking a bad reality is better than picking a comfortable falsehood.
So by framing Shinji's action in saving Rei as causing billions to die, unknowingly or not, it is obvious that the meta-reason for it all is that one has to reject harmful escapism, less you wall yourself off from reality and harm others in the process.
I see all you guys go to such great lengths to try and explain why the third and fourth movie are what they are in regards to not just Rei, but a many of the choices made in regards to narrative, when the simplest explanation simply goes back to the meta reasons and meta-commentary. You can post such lengthy posts trying to detail otherwise, but it is far more likely that the simple meta reasons for such story choices are what Anno intended.
Heck, all the the responses I've gotten in regards to said treatment of characters like Rei almost never take into account the meta-commentary, instead side-stepping the issue in favor of things like "geode character exploration" or "placing the characters in the most extreme circumstances". Which honestly feels like both a cop-out and extreme coping.
With this in mind, how much do the meta reasons and meta-commentary about harmful escapism and Anno's views on things like otaku waifus matter when it comes to understanding the reasoning behind the story choices and the like? I mean, I've already made it clear how I think it explains the actions regarding how Rei was treated in the latter two Rebuild films, and is something I simply can't see any other way.

