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Postby Mr. Tines » Thu Nov 27, 2014 5:16 pm

View Original PostShinoyami65 wrote:a vague mental image and some rusty primal instincts
The instincts aren't so rusty, and when they kick in, you can forget about the former; the onset of "Our MHCs smell suitably complementary -- let's pair-bond!" simply doesn't work on that level. When it happens, it's also clearly and obviously different to a simple infatuation, or even the effect of seeing a clear 10 in the flesh.

but it still feels like once you're out in the big wide world the chances of finding a good match diminish substantially.
Even in the heavily male dominated world of software engineering, I've seen office romances happen. It's just that once you're out of education, you aren't mixing with only your rough age cohort, so the proportion of singles goes down.
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Postby pwhodges » Thu Nov 27, 2014 5:36 pm

View Original PostShinoyami65 wrote:but it still feels like once you're out in the big wide world the chances of finding a good match diminish substantially.

It may seem an odd argument, but if you consider the high and increasing numbers of divorces followed by second marriages, that shows that the possibilities are in fact still there.
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Postby mechashiva » Fri Nov 28, 2014 1:24 pm

So the relationship between my and kohai (I kind of want to keep his anonymity because I really don't want to go off the rails and gush about him using his real name) is getting pretty...heavy.

We met in an art class in the community college we both go to and we started talking about Spiderman (even though I know almost nothing comics related about Spiderman but I like him as a character) and we exchanged emails because we didn't have any classes together. (Neither of us have driving licenses and we rely on our families to drop us off at school) Mostly our emails were about ideas for comics. I hadn't done much with comics but I was interested and that's how we got to know each more even if I was practically foaming at the mouth with ideas.

We've seen each other on and off at the campus cafeteria and I would look forward to it because I had absolutely no one to talk to and most of time, I was basically stuck at school with nothing to do. I liked talking to him and I started to open up more and more. I said once that at school, I'm basically like Rei: I don't talk to anybody and keep to myself to the point where other people might think I'm just an indifferent weirdo and its maybe only art classes and English classes that I talk at all. But when I get to know somebody I think is worth my time, I want to spend ALL of my time with them and talk to them, which is probably why I come off as needy and clingy. Not only is he not weirded out by it, he's the same way. What was really great was how much stuff we have in common; not just interests but personality-wise. We're both kindred spirits of one another and because we both do art (and fall into similar despondent states of procrastination and frustration) we encourage each other and inspire each other. (or at least I like to think so) Community college has just left me in general feeling like a failure and depressed and he's easily the highlight of my day, even if we just talk about anime or comics.

Then last week, we started talking about...sex-type stuff. It sort of spun-out of an Evangelion conversation and we kind of admitted to one another our secret fetishes. Since he's more into anime than me (I've been dipping my toes into it for a while) I was kind of afraid I'd find out something he'd be into that would too dirty or nasty for me to agree with but we're both into the same thing
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So he's working on getting his license so we can hang out more outside of school and maybe during Christmas break. Chances are very good for a Satoshi Kon marathon and maybe some cuddling ^_^
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Postby Squigsquasher » Fri Nov 28, 2014 2:25 pm

Sounds like he's an open and straightforward person. That's a good sign. To me at least, honesty is one of the most important parts of a relationship.

Granted I may not be the best person to take advice on relationships from given my inexperience, but I thought it was worth mentioning.
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Postby Chuckman » Fri Nov 28, 2014 3:09 pm

View Original Postpwhodges wrote:It may seem an odd argument, but if you consider the high and increasing numbers of divorces followed by second marriages, that shows that the possibilities are in fact still there.


Assuming everyone is an adult I don't see the big deal with age gaps.

Or as a wise man said, you're only as old as the one you feel.
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Postby mechashiva » Sat Nov 29, 2014 11:50 am

View Original PostSquigsquasher wrote:Sounds like he's an open and straightforward person. That's a good sign. To me at least, honesty is one of the most important parts of a relationship.

Granted I may not be the best person to take advice on relationships from given my inexperience, but I thought it was worth mentioning.


Yeah, I mean, I haven't dated a lot but I'm already kind of sick of the back and forth mind games of pretending to be indifferent to make yourself more alluring and waiting on the guy to text first. The last relationship I had I jumped in way too quickly in the basis of one first date where I was super charmed and super attracted to him so I went from "Oh, he seems nice." to "I WANT HIM RIGHT NOW, ARRGH!" in the space of a few hours. For a lot of reasons I won't go into, we broke up and I felt terrible for "messing things up".

But yeah. With me and my kohai, I didn't force much of anything because I already just wanted to hang out with him and talk about comics and anime and be dorks together. I was just incredibly lonely and he was the only person I wanted to be around and made me forget the rest of my crummy life. Even just be straight-forward and upfront about wanting to spend time together is a real load off my mind and I feel like I don't have to pretend to be less of a weirdo like I did with my last boyfriend. I feel comfortable, which shouldn't be a big deal but it is. :rolleyes:
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Postby Compiling_Autumn » Sat Nov 29, 2014 2:41 pm

Feeling comfortable with someone you like and knowing that they genuinely like you back is a VERY big deal.
I have those same problems you do about rushing in and getting knocked on my ass.
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Postby Princess Asuka » Sat Nov 29, 2014 11:16 pm

I thought things were going well with me and my Sempai given things were falling into place, until today we got into a huge fight. He started pointing out my flaws and saying I won't change. I've been working my ass to exercise and lose weight and be girly and yet he's complaining. He loves my personality, is starting to find me attractive but complains about how I'm still learning to cook and clean and trying to find a job. And there's something else about a situation with something rather personal that I rushed and he said it didn't feel right and that's how ended up in this mess and I'm not sure if his phone on airplane mode or he blocked me cause we haven't been speaking for a few hours now. I think it's airplane mode though. I'm mad because my younger got involved when I wanted to apologize. I don't know when I'll be able to talk to him again. I regret what I did and just wanna apologize to him. Right now I've got a headache and it feels like someone is stabbing me in the heart a million times and I can't stop crying. What should I do guys?
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Postby Nuclear Lunchbox » Sun Nov 30, 2014 2:46 am

If this fight ends things, than so be it-- the relationship obviously couldn't withstand an argument. If it continues, though, it may be a testament to the fact that fights can happen but the relationship will move on. Only time will tell, I guess.

In the meantime, find a good friend to kvetch to about it and eat some good food.

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Postby Shinoyami65 » Sun Nov 30, 2014 3:33 am

View Original PostPrincess Asuka wrote:for a few hours now.


...It's been a few hours. Leave him in peace for a day and maybe his head will be clearer without getting frantic texts every 15 minutes.

...I realise this may sound a bit jaded but I'm getting the impression you message the guy frequently, so maybe you should ease off a bit or try some IRL contact.
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Postby KingXanaduu » Sun Nov 30, 2014 4:13 am

View Original PostShinoyami65 wrote:...It's been a few hours. Leave him in peace for a day and maybe his head will be clearer without getting frantic texts every 15 minutes.

...I realise this may sound a bit jaded but I'm getting the impression you message the guy frequently, so maybe you should ease off a bit or try some IRL contact.


I second this kind of advice, cause I've learned from experience is the last thing partners want to appear towards their significant other is desperate and clingy. Try taking a break from contacting him for a while, and let him come to you.
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Postby Princess Asuka » Sun Nov 30, 2014 5:22 am

View Original Postxanderkh wrote:I second this kind of advice, cause I've learned from experience is the last thing partners want to appear towards their significant other is desperate and clingy. Try taking a break from contacting him for a while, and let him come to you.

I'll admit that we FaceTime everyday, but now I'm sitting in bed at 4am sobbing light tears and deeply regretting what has happened. Oddly enough the only thing that brought me comfort was looking at photo of him last night since we couldn't talk to each other. And I just found out he blocked me on facebook.
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Postby Sorrow » Sun Nov 30, 2014 9:00 am

View Original PostChuckman wrote:Or as a wise man said, you're only as old as the one you feel.
So you feel your age, then?
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Postby Princess Asuka » Mon Dec 01, 2014 6:47 pm

Well, my Sempai says he has some feelings of love left for his ex that hurt him. And doesn't care if she hurts him and makes him unhappy. He wants her to be unhappy with someone else. I tried to call him explain how I felt and he's like why do you care? I'm like because I care about you, you should know this by now. I feel like all this hard work of being girly and sexy, plus being kind and exercising and losing weight and applying for a volunteer job was for nothing. And now I don't even know how he feels about me anymore cause he got mad and blocked my number. I feel so hurt and confused. I just want to get things cleared up with him.
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Postby Sailor Star Dust » Mon Dec 01, 2014 7:11 pm

But it's not really for nothing when you're gaining self-confidence by taking care of your appearance and gaining work experience/helping others by volunteering. It can be hard when you're feeling hurt, but try to keep things in perspective, okay? ;)
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Postby Dataprime » Mon Dec 01, 2014 7:39 pm

What is Love?
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Postby Guy Nacks » Mon Dec 01, 2014 7:56 pm

View Original PostDataprime wrote:What is Love?


Baby, don't hurt me.
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Postby chaosakita » Mon Dec 01, 2014 9:45 pm

View Original PostPrincess Asuka wrote:I thought things were going well with me and my Sempai given things were falling into place, until today we got into a huge fight. He started pointing out my flaws and saying I won't change. I've been working my ass to exercise and lose weight and be girly and yet he's complaining. He loves my personality, is starting to find me attractive but complains about how I'm still learning to cook and clean and trying to find a job. And there's something else about a situation with something rather personal that I rushed and he said it didn't feel right and that's how ended up in this mess and I'm not sure if his phone on airplane mode or he blocked me cause we haven't been speaking for a few hours now. I think it's airplane mode though. I'm mad because my younger got involved when I wanted to apologize. I don't know when I'll be able to talk to him again. I regret what I did and just wanna apologize to him. Right now I've got a headache and it feels like someone is stabbing me in the heart a million times and I can't stop crying. What should I do guys?


So is this guy your bf or your crush or what?

Why do you even like him? I think if he's blocked on you on facebook, that's a sign you need to move on.

What exactly is the point of this thread?
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Postby Shinoyami65 » Mon Dec 01, 2014 10:03 pm

^Well, it's a place where forum members come to air their woes regarding relationships or not having relationships. It was born out of all that relationship strife that often hit the FML thread, so now everything love-related gets funneled through here so FML doesn't overflow.
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Postby Princess Asuka » Mon Dec 01, 2014 10:50 pm

View Original Postchaosakita wrote:So is this guy your bf or your crush or what?

Why do you even like him? I think if he's blocked on you on facebook, that's a sign you need to move on.

What exactly is the point of this thread?

He's my crush. And I have a lot of reasons for like him and he unblocked me on Facebook. The he's friends with ex, but refuses to take her back, he gained his best friend back and everything is back to normal. I like him because he's smart, handsome, funny, sweet, we're both into anime, videogames, movies, etc. We get along great, have a lot in common.
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