The way Asuka's absolutely despicable behaviour is just tolerated by the adults, mostly.
Well, Nerv not particularly caring makes sense considering the general "inhuman oppressive organization" vibes it constantly gives off. Misato I think is someone who at least intuitively understands what's the right thing to do, but fails to do it due to her own problems (which does include a lack of trying to deal with stuff she has to, but does not wish to deal with i.e. a lack of responsibility) anyway. Hikari is, as BernardoCairo said, a pretty traditional girl who has some pretty old-fashioned views. (That particular characteristic of hers is something I think is later on contrasted with her incapability to offer adequate help to Asuka, as her statically remaining interested in the "old" means she is unable to progress into an understanding of the problems of people dealing with something horrifyingly "new" (which piloting a biomechanical creature into battle against other creatures at the age of fourteen definitely is; this even works in a meta way, if Asuka's problems are also to be considered as at least partially the aftereffects of a certain sort of psychological trauma and alienation induced by technological developments -that's just a theory, of course, though I am increasingly feeling like technology plays a more important part in Eva's themes than I previously assumed)).
The lack of backstory.
I get what you're saying, but personally I feel certain characters work better without that much backstory. We get just enough to Gendo to understand how he became the Commander of Nerv, for example, but not enough to make his EoE reveal of genuinely loving Shinji something that the vast majority of people could reasonably expect based on clues. (And I do think it works a lot better as something very surprising). As for Shinji, then I just don't feel it matters. Firstly, NGE enjoys leaving plenty of things to the imagination and secondly, Shinji's essential characteristics would remain much the same regardless of whether or not we'd get insight into his pre-piloting past. A scene of Shinji failing to make friends in 1st grade wouldn't tell us more than what we already can glean from his general state of interacting with other humans.
Last but not least, Eva 3.0 RELIES on us being completely oblivious to what the fuck went on in the previous 14 years and that's hard to pull off and a delicate beauty to maintain, but I think they did that really well.
Yeah, Q is brilliant.
Like making a big point of how she was doing the kissing just for experimenting/ to try it & then being upset that he didn't do anything romantic... miss, you explicitly just said "No romance"
Not only that, Asuka didn't even let him breathe during the kissing, so of course he would be less than interested in "proper romance" even more than he usually would.
As I said before, scenes that were meant to be comical are completely recontextualized after we understand what’s actually going on behind the curtains.
I think there's an interesting question to be asked about how much certain ostensibly comedic scenes should be discussed in terms of the realistic consequences of what they show, following NGE's latter-half interest in recontextualizing several ideas and moments presented previously. I do think that just because a lot of Asuka's abuse toward Shinji was presented comedically, doesn't mean it's not serious, especially when she also abuses him in the latter half, where her actions are presented in a more serious light and
as being worryingly similar to her "comedic" abuses at times.
(Also, just because Shinji has an inferiority complex doesn't mean he likes being called an idiot or that calling him an idiot is alright).
You know what I would change in Evangelion, the only thing I would change is the plot of the movie 3.0 because it is illogical.
I'm quite certain the plot of Q not making a lot of sense at first glance is an intended effect. However, I do think that the more the film is viewed, the more several parts of it do make sense-and based on what I know of Shin, it seems that clears up a few things as well.