Postby Sorrow » Sun Jul 06, 2014 2:35 pm
The first time I saw the End of Evangelion and the ending, I took her comment to show her disappointment in Shinji's lack of conviction.
He was choking her, in my mind, to confirm reality. To her, she doesn't know why Shinji has decided to choke her, but he has, she understands and accepts he wants to, for whatever reason he may have, and so she caresses his face in approval, accepting him for his actions. That isn't to say she also wished to be strangled to death, only she's approving of Shinji's decision to take matters into his own hands.
Upon Asuka's reaction, I think Shinji takes this as a sign of it being the real Asuka and he relents, either disgusted with himself for what he was doing or actually relieved it's really her. He stops the assault and begins to cry on top of her.
To Asuka, who doesn't know Shinji's intentions, he has just once again proved to her that he lacks conviction, a will of his own to take matters into his own hands and see things through to the end. She even approved of his decision and he still backed away from it. This causes her to confirm that he is pathetic, weak and worthless. Hence her disgust.
That was my initial take on their actions in that scene at any rate, not that anyone asked for it.
The fate of man…the hope of man is written in sorrow.