because my girlfriend is hot and im a 17 year old girl, trying real damn hard to not say anything about this to her (so technically this is a semi FML)
I'd say the talk about boundaries (i.e. what's deemed OK in respect to physical touch and what's not) is pretty essential. Not being open about might lead to increased but unwelcomed awkward tension between you two. Either you or her might do something one of you finds bothersome; not addressing could eat away the other person.
Take my advice with a grain of salt of course. Just my observations from the past.
Rosenakahara wrote: personally i dont have an AMAZING sex drive or anything, like im not craving it like some people and i seriously question why people risk getting diseases by having sex with random people just because they are frustrated when masturbation exists, but at the same time i still get urges now and then :P so fairly sure im not asexual
I'm not saying you are asexual, as it's a spectrum and only you can make that call, one that feels comfortable. I will say that you seem
to fit the description, but again, I can't make that call ;)
I can sympathize with your view to a degree no doubt.
Sorrow wrote:Congratulations. Perhaps late, in various ways, but congratulations, all the same.
Thank you as well! My parents and other friends have always tried to get me to date, so that I could have 'experience' in sex, and when I expressed disinterest in that, they assumed (my parents at least) that I was afraid of acting on. To some degree, yes. In another sense, I don't have a phobia of it and would open to the idea of it, but ultimately, I feel most at ease knowing all along, I simply didn't desire it. It made me almost
question my sexual orientation, but I felt pretty strong that I wasn't a homosexual and nor has that ever been a significant conflict for me; just don't jive with the whole "a relationship needs to have sex in order to be genuine and fun!" ideology.
Better late than never of course!