I've been investigating this for a while now. I've been pretty sure
that this scene was a direct result of Shinji's complementation and
therefore never occured in reality. However, last night, I made a
startling discovery. While watching "EvangelionEATH(true)²" (as I
religously do, ya know :P) I noticed something very disturbing during
the scene where Shinji first meets Kaworu on the beach. There is a very
quick cut of Asuka flashed and looking at it now I am positive it is a
view of Asuka from Shinji's perspective in the coffee-pot scene.
The cut is of the camera looking down upon Asuka, sitting at the dinner
table- head in hands- from her left. This would be exactly how Shinji
would have seen her in the EoE scene. The whole thing seems very
peculiar to me, though.
I don't think I have a copy of (true) to look through for the cut, and the screenshots generated for the Commentary project are all of the TV series of course. Does anyone have a screencap of this? (Or can confirm this?)