I think most of us around here realize that, but I don't think it's ever going to change simply by forcing people to recognize the double standard. Not that I don't encourage forcing people to recognize the double standard and why it doesn't make any sense, but I simply don't think it's going to change.
Sexism in NGE?
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I think it's primarily used by women to shame other women who, by 'giving it away cheap' are lowering the (social) market value of marriage. The double standard also makes perfect biological sense because even with the advent of birth control women still take the vast majority of medical, financial and social risks for being promiscuous. No it isn't fair, but it isn't without basis either.
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Exactly true. The Holy Mary vs. the slut attitude can be viewed as a two-strategy evolutionary stable state, where Marys try to reap profit from men's willingness to parental investment (and probe mens' willingness via costly-to-male courting requirements), while sluts use promiscuity to access a much greater selection of male genes, even though they necessarily relinquish high parental investment (because males are very highly disincentivized to care for children who has even a low chance of being not theirs). I remember reading somewhere though that both women and men have flexibility assuming different strategies depending on local payoffs to parental investment and social environment.
However, men are also incentivized to discourage promiscuity in the case they already have high-investment exclusive partnership (polygamous or monogamous). Hence the sometimes exhibited possessive attitude towards women or even the practice of female circumcision. Well, men have some evolutionary incentive to encourage fidelity and detest infidelity at most times, yet their power to enforce fidelity varies. I think men also often benefit from a hypocritical loathing of sluts; it signals faithfulness to Marys, even when secretly taking advantage of sluts.
The double standard also makes perfect biological sense because even with the advent of birth control women still take the vast majority of medical, financial and social risks for being promiscuous.
It may happen to make sense, but it's important to note that the underlying psychology and biology cannot be influenced in any ways by contraception because of its extreme novelty in evolutionary time.
If I were to ask you on a date, would your answer be the same as your answer to this question?
Geez man, couldn't you have stopped at something a shade less offensive, like a father's incentive to keep his daughter virginal to maintain her value as a bride in societies that consider such things serious business? At least that's just systematically oppressive and culturally backwards rather than needlessly cruel.
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"I'd consider myself a realist, alright? but in philosophical terms I'm what's called a pessimist. It means I'm bad at parties." - Rust Cohle
"Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize that half of 'em are stupider than that." - George Carlin
"The internet: It's like a training camp for never amounting to anything." - Oglaf
"I think internet message boards and the like are dangerous." - Anno
Apologies for "omnislashing", but there's a lot of people talking.
And before anyone jumps in with "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me", let's remember that we're all Evangelion fans. This franchise deals heavily with mental illness, trauma, that sort of thing. Being able to simply brush off this kind of language is a privledge not everyone has.
And on a more Evacentric note...
Most of the people here are from the Western world, where "standards of common decency" have advanced from whatever is practiced in the Balkans. Human beings are now allowed to enjoy sex without having strangers criticize their behaviour. What have these "sluts" done to you to deserve such cruelty? And I do appreciate that you view Kaji and Misato in the same light. I don't think you're speaking with the intention of being sexist, but your approach doesn't always reveal that.
You seem to be confused about the power of language. Imagine a white man saying, "An uppity nigger isn't less of a uppity nigger if I tell him instead he's a disgruntled African-American." Words have a lot of power, regardless of the speaker's intentions. You are using derogatory language to describe people (real and imaginary) who have done nothing to you. I'd let it pass if your wife cheated on you and you called her "slut" in a moment of passion. But I cringe when I hear "slut" the same as when I hear "dyke" or "fag". It calls to mind occasions of harassment.What kind of language I use to describe his deeds doesn't determine their severeness. A slut isn't less of a slut if I tell her instead she's promiscuous.
In my experience the men say it to my face, the women behind my back. Neither feels good. Language is a powerful way to oppress people. These women are just eating up the crap that the "patriarchy" has been serving up forever. (Note, I do not believe I live in an actual patriarchy.) Nemz, you are right that a woman takes more risk in being promiscuous, but a woman also takes more risks than a man by being monogamous. A woman takes more risks simply by living.
And before anyone jumps in with "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me", let's remember that we're all Evangelion fans. This franchise deals heavily with mental illness, trauma, that sort of thing. Being able to simply brush off this kind of language is a privledge not everyone has.
And on a more Evacentric note...
Yup yup! We know this about Misato: 1) she enjoys sex, 2) Kaji might be here only sexual partner and she's conflicted about their relationship. From this, some people assume she's a slut. This is why I bring up the use of "slut" to target women who enjoy sex.
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If advancing means being a dumb whore and exalting as a virtue, I'm more than happy to stay in the Balkans.
Human beings are now allowed to enjoy sex without having strangers criticize their behaviour
Unless that behavior is immoral and despicable. Morality is a collective phenomenon, and if you can't stand that there are values systems under which such behaviors is unacceptable, I advise you to go live in a cave far away from human societies.
What have these "sluts" done to you to deserve such cruelty?
They're sluts.
Words have a lot of power, regardless of the speaker's intentions. You are using derogatory language to describe people (real and imaginary) who have done nothing to you.
But they do something to themselves and indirectly something to society.
But I cringe when I hear "slut". It calls to mind occasions of harassment.
Even junkies don't want to be called junkies by others. To be reminded what one is is always painful.
I suspect that if guys had reason to refer to you as such then it was probably for a completely different reason... religion-based moral intolerance, jealousy, defensiveness over being rejected, misunderstood the nature of the relationship, someone you're related to feeling social pressure from others for the above reasons, etc. I don't really understand why a guy would have any particular problem with your behavior without some other issue being the real source of friction.
These women are just eating up the crap that the "patriarchy" has been serving up forever.
I'd say it's more accurate to say they've carved out a stable niche within that system that provides both security and satisfaction, and thus they are threatened that your rejection of the status quo might force them to adapt.
A woman takes more risks simply by living.
That's not a reason to intentionally exacerbate the risks though, is it? Saying you could potentially die in a car wreck at comfortable cruising speeds doesn't mean you might as well floor it.
Allemann wrote:there are values systems under which such behaviors is unacceptable
Your values are neither universal nor objectively true. What privileges you to denounce people who hold different views with such vitriol? More specifically, what makes you think referring to a fellow poster as "a dumb whore" is socially acceptable when judged by the established values of this forum?
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"I'd consider myself a realist, alright? but in philosophical terms I'm what's called a pessimist. It means I'm bad at parties." - Rust Cohle
"Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize that half of 'em are stupider than that." - George Carlin
"The internet: It's like a training camp for never amounting to anything." - Oglaf
"I think internet message boards and the like are dangerous." - Anno
"I'd consider myself a realist, alright? but in philosophical terms I'm what's called a pessimist. It means I'm bad at parties." - Rust Cohle
"Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize that half of 'em are stupider than that." - George Carlin
"The internet: It's like a training camp for never amounting to anything." - Oglaf
"I think internet message boards and the like are dangerous." - Anno
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This is all getting perilously close to religion and/or politics, neither of which make for calm discussion.
Stick to the topic, and stop flaming other posters, everyone.
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That's just a quirk of the translation, really. 男/otoko could be either man OR men. (Japanese plurals are fun that way.) So, it may actually be "You're using a man."
I'd have to see that part in context again, however. The dialogue before that could've implied "men."
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All I have to say about this is that there really isn't any sexist anime at all. If you don't want sexism, you shouldn't be watching anime at all. Find a better medium to watch. I think it's hypocritical to be a fan of something and then complain how sexist it is.
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I'm confused; these two statements seem to directly contradict each other.
I think it's hypocritical to be a fan of something and then complain how sexist it is.
How so? Being a fan of something doesn't necessarily entail liking every aspect of it and agreeing with every idea expressed in its subtext.
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I don't think eva is sexist. Although I do believe there is guite a bit of sexism in the fandom.
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I meant "non-sexist anime." Whoops.
How so? Being a fan of something doesn't necessarily entail liking every aspect of it and agreeing with every idea expressed in its subtext.
If sexism or whatever doesn't really matter to you, then it's fine. I guess you don't really care. I never intended to say that Eva wasn't sexist at all anyways. But I wouldn't watch something that went against my core principles.
But at the end of the day, complaining against sexism in NGE won't do anything to fix sexism in Japan or anywhere else. If it bothers someone that much, they should just stop.
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I think it'd be more accurate to say "sexually harassing" than just "flaming". But I get fighty all the time so it's probably karma. Apologies for leading things into dangerous waters. ^^; Addressing issues within fandom can get fighty, yeah. But hopefully we've all learned something.
But really, sexism is deeply connected to politics and religion and morality and ethnics and whatnot. Probably best to just axe this thread if we're going to skirt (ha ha) around the issue. ^^;
But really, sexism is deeply connected to politics and religion and morality and ethnics and whatnot. Probably best to just axe this thread if we're going to skirt (ha ha) around the issue. ^^;
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In a semi-defense of Allemann (whom I completely disagree with, but that's beside the point), I don't think he was intentionally calling Miss O. a "dumb whore" since he wasn't addressing her behavior, specifically, but just the morality of "sluts" in general.
Then allow me to knock down your strawman; I don't see where NemZ said his values are universal or objectively true, nor do I see where he denounced any other different views with any vitriol. What I have seen him doing is discussing the biological and social logical reasons behind why the term is in usage and what is meant by it. Your answering a question with the same question is just a lame attempt to avoid his accusation by a Tu Quoque that isn't even applicable.
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We're all adrift on the stormy seas of Evangelion, desperately trying to gather what flotsam can be snatched from the gale into a somewhat seaworthy interpretation so that we can at last reach the shores of reason and respite. - ObsessiveMathsFreak
Jimbo has posted enough to be considered greater than or equal to everyone, and or synonymous with the concept of 'everyone'. - Muggy
I've seen so many changeful years, / to Earth I am a stranger grown: / I wander in the ways of men, / alike unknowing and unknown: / Unheard, unpitied, unrelieved, / I bear alone my load of care; / For silent, low, on beds of dust, / Lie all that would my sorrows share. - Robert Burns' Lament for James
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We're all adrift on the stormy seas of Evangelion, desperately trying to gather what flotsam can be snatched from the gale into a somewhat seaworthy interpretation so that we can at last reach the shores of reason and respite. - ObsessiveMathsFreak
Jimbo has posted enough to be considered greater than or equal to everyone, and or synonymous with the concept of 'everyone'. - Muggy
I've seen so many changeful years, / to Earth I am a stranger grown: / I wander in the ways of men, / alike unknowing and unknown: / Unheard, unpitied, unrelieved, / I bear alone my load of care; / For silent, low, on beds of dust, / Lie all that would my sorrows share. - Robert Burns' Lament for James
Eva Yojimbo wrote: Then allow me to knock down your strawman; I don't see where NemZ said his values are universal or objectively true, nor do I see where he denounced any other different views with any vitriol. What I have seen him doing is discussing the biological and social logical reasons behind why the term is in usage and what is meant by it. Your answering a question with the same question is just a lame attempt to avoid his accusation by a Tu Quoque that isn't even applicable.
Values can only be held by conscious individuals - "society", "tribe" or any other such thing is just abstract conception that doesn't really have its own morals or rules. Ethics of society are only as real as ethics held by its people. It all boils down to individuals in the end.
I don't see a meaningful distinction here. Besides, NemZ and Allemann come from different cultures anyway so the distinction still would be pretty meaningless even if above wasn't true (and it is).
Judging people's morality makes only sense and is justifiable from objective pov. Otherwise it's all "well, it's only your opinion man" in global scale. As such Allemann did nothing wrong (as he believes he has grasp of obj. morality as revealed in Christian dogma). If somebody was being incredibly silly it was NemZ who by his own admission doesn't believe in ethics
in any case none of this is on topic, is it?
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Nor does it have anything to do with what I said. ;) Let's just all agree to drop this, unless the mods want to brave another OT morality thread. But what Allemann did WAS wrong and is going to get him banned from this abstract conception of a society if he doesn't stop it.
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We're all adrift on the stormy seas of Evangelion, desperately trying to gather what flotsam can be snatched from the gale into a somewhat seaworthy interpretation so that we can at last reach the shores of reason and respite. - ObsessiveMathsFreak
Jimbo has posted enough to be considered greater than or equal to everyone, and or synonymous with the concept of 'everyone'. - Muggy
I've seen so many changeful years, / to Earth I am a stranger grown: / I wander in the ways of men, / alike unknowing and unknown: / Unheard, unpitied, unrelieved, / I bear alone my load of care; / For silent, low, on beds of dust, / Lie all that would my sorrows share. - Robert Burns' Lament for James
^ Writing as Jonathan Henderson ^
We're all adrift on the stormy seas of Evangelion, desperately trying to gather what flotsam can be snatched from the gale into a somewhat seaworthy interpretation so that we can at last reach the shores of reason and respite. - ObsessiveMathsFreak
Jimbo has posted enough to be considered greater than or equal to everyone, and or synonymous with the concept of 'everyone'. - Muggy
I've seen so many changeful years, / to Earth I am a stranger grown: / I wander in the ways of men, / alike unknowing and unknown: / Unheard, unpitied, unrelieved, / I bear alone my load of care; / For silent, low, on beds of dust, / Lie all that would my sorrows share. - Robert Burns' Lament for James
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