Personally I tend to watch EoE more beacuse it better encoperates the mental and physical aspects of eva. I'm also an artist, and I like EoE better for the visual aspects. (Like Asuka in 02 jumping up during the battle, and the cable flaring)
And finally the issue of Instrumentality. I think its very hard to say weather or not Shinji accepts or regects Instrumentality at the end of either ending.
In the series, its obvious that Shinji has come to terms, or accepted some of his demons, and things that made him unhappy. But does that mean accepting, or rejecting instrumentality. (not conclusivly in my opinion) Lots of people work out their problems without inciting the mass evolution of the human race.
In the movie, everyone in the world turns into one entity, except Shinji and Asuka. Does that mean accepting or rejecting Instrumentality. (I'm not sure it does.) Maybe at the end of instrumentality two people have to start again. Maybe all humanity is condensed into them. (Shinji = meek, unsure, nice. Asuka = Overbearing, confident, mean)
At the end of the day, I just don't think that the audience knows enough about instrumentality to say how it went either way.
I think what manticore said is really good
but that is what makes Eva's later half so interesting..its mainly up to the individual viewer's interpretation
The fact that some of this is up in the air, and that everyone can get something diffrent out of it is one of the reasons that I like eva so much. Its why i think that its generally accepted to be one of the most important anime series ever.
I also want to thank Nephilim for posting thoese pics, I never realised how concretly the endings are tied together visually.
sorry that was so long. *tries to pull entry into sea of dirac, bit it won't fit cause its too big*