I was never the things you did listen, people even called me a well behaved teen, no disobedient and all that.
Anecdotal evidence isn't always something you should apply universally, so frankly, your personal story, which I can deeply empathize with given my own upbringing, isn't all that relevant to Asuka's.
Furthermore, from what you told me, your upbringing had a lot of differences in comparison to Asuka's own, so again, your personal story, isn't all that relevant here. You dealt with your own issues, you never had to deal with Asuka's, hence you have no basis to claim you would have done better than Asuka did if you had to walk in her shoes. Even if I'm generous and take your claim that you would have as fact, you are simply a single person who doesn't represent what
most people would or would not do.
Either way, your personal story, simply isn't relevant.
I didn't have the same excuses, I did need to sort myself out, because I do noticed that people are less likely to help you if you're a man, so I needed to steel up and meet life.
Maybe you would have done better in her situation, maybe not, but you can't just disregard circumstances in some aspects while not doing so in others. If you want to claim we shouldn't consider her awfully traumatic past, then I'd also expect you to be consistent and not try to "make excuses" around her saving the world multiple times. Otherwise, you're simply being intellectually dishonest.
I didn't have the same excuses, I did need to sort myself out, because I do noticed that people are less likely to help you if you're a man, so I needed to steel up and meet life.
I wasn't excused, why should she? Because she is girl?
I hate to do this, but sexism against girls is more prominent in Japan than sexism vs boys. Let's keep baseless claims of societal injustice out of this.
where she will often complain because 'he doesn't hug her' so being a good boy and giving 'sweet validation' to her or 'not being a man' that would be like Kaji to save her from her problems and make a place to her in life, whilst becoming her absolute perfect boyfriend as a bonus.
Shinji, "perfect boyfriend", he was:
-> masturbated over Asuka's comotose body
-> literally
killed Asuka forcing her into instrumentality
-> tried to kill Asuka a second time
Asuka's response:
-> A
soft caressMost people would, and would be completely justified in, violently retaliating.
Asuka did not.
Trying to paint Asuka by the end of her character arc as a high-maintenance b&t%h is pretty damn laughable. This boy, who, for the record, was begging Asuka for help in instrumentality, killed her, tried to do it again and Asuka responded by offering him emotional support.
You may claim that you would be capable of such tolerance, perhaps you are, perhaps you aren't, but I'm willing to bet the vast majority of people aren't.
It also doesn't make much sense to me when people view her character arc as a failure when it ends with Asuka
-> Choosing to live rather than accept universal suicide
-> Showing kindness when someone tried to kill her, an action the vast majority of people wouldn't replicate
All things considered, Asuka did incredibly well given all the crap she had to deal with. If we ignore context, she saved the world mutliple times and showed kindness to someone who tried to kill her. If we consider context, she was willing to put up with attempted murder in spite of an awful childhood where she was exposed to an insane amount of emotional and even physical trauma.
Your dislike of her is irrational.