Guy Nacks wrote:
There is no excuse for that if she knew what your intentions were. And if she's secretive to you about something like that, who knows what else she might be secretive about if you were to be in a relationship together?
There are assholes and there are cunts. This is the latter.
Truer words... have not been spoken.
This lady didn't see you as a potential sexual partner, Stan. Either you didn't make it clear that's what you were going for, or she was aware and deflected. Either way, move on.
On a more basic level, Tines is right. If you aren't going to go in a couple of weeks it ain't happening and you'd best adjust accordingly.
The so-called "friend zone" is never a bad place to be, though. Girls are friends with other girls and that's a good way to meet more. Also they can be interesting people in and of themselves.
Still... if she never mentioned she had a BF that's pretty weird. Other fish in the sea.
I was initially shocked, although managed to keep my cool and save face, then I was depressed for a little - but now, a few days later, I am okay. In retrospect, taking into account her personality, I think she wasn't sure what she wanted. My deduction is that she doesn't like the other dude much, but I guess she didn't like me enough to dump him. I think she was trying to keep us both and figure things out. I tip my hat to her for keeping me in the dark for this long because I don't tolerate this nonsense. She just successfully wasted my time.
Nah man, I don't play the friendzone game. I'm direct and straight to the point. There are girls who are my friends, and there are girls who I wanna date, I make the distinction clear to them. In this case, she was just an indecisive idiot - who knows how many others there might have been aside from me and the other dude.
Three days of intense cramming for my exams and Bruno Mars on constant replay helped me take this heartbreak quite well, actually. Thanks for talking with me, I feel much at ease after sharing