Not that Asuka is really all that mean since she's risked her life for her friends, tried to get them to value themselves more and put up with one of them trying to kill her.
The part where she gets them to value themselves, was that during instrumentality? Or was it way before that? I can't remember exactly when that happened since it's been a while now.
And given all the trauma she has had to deal with, her rejection of instrumentality is pretty damn commendable.
We like talking about how Shinji and Asuka are baskets for pity but when it comes down to it, both found the will to live despite life giving them every reason not to. That's pretty impressive. Worthy of respect even.
Yes, it's a rather impressive feat for someone to reject Instrumentality and found the will to live.
But I think in Asuka's case, it could be possible she rejected it because she doesn't want to be around other people and have them see into her mind; remember she doesn't want to share with people, be in the same place as them, use the same stuff they used (her rant in ep. 22), and more importantly, she doesn't want to people to see her weakness and know everything about her. Her reason for coming back may not be the same as Shinji's, but she came back nonetheless, and probably found herself in a worst spot; right next to Shinji.
"If I have to be with you, I would rather die!"
But, I suppose one could hope for the best, and hopefully they won't try to kill each other, or themselves.
pwhodges wrote:OK, you qualify it a bit more than I've quoted, but you appear to be considering the possibility that Asuka was abused by her parents because she was unpleasant rather than the other way round. This is an extraordinary position to get to, it seems to me, and completely negates the point of Asuka's (and Shinji's) treatment in childhood and its effect on them as it's addressed in the show.
Could you elaborate on those?