Postby Chuckman » Sun Nov 08, 2015 4:22 pm
Dude it's almost insulting for you to brand all submissives as minions.
Time for Chuckman to deliver a powerful teaching:
Let me tell you why Fifty Shades of Grey exploded in popularity. It's not because of the physical acts described in the book and it's not because the readership has internalized the patriarchy and idealized victimhood and abusive relationships.
It's because the readership enjoys a relief valve, which is the basis for submission in real life both generally and in BDSM practices. It's powerful people who exert a lot of control and decision making in their lives that enjoy submission the most. It allows people a complete release from that stress for a time. To just be taken care of for a while, instead of relentlessly organizing and deciding.
Now there's a lot of confusion here, because abusive behavior in relationships comes from a sense of weakness, not power, and sex-negative feminism tends to confuse "dominant partner" with "abusive partner" because fear is itself the dominant factor in fourth wave feminist ideology, as is clear to any and all Chuckmen who see the secret heart of things. True dominance is an act of caring, compassion, and support. It's all about the sub. The sub sets the tone and boundaries and controls by yielding.
There are degrees of dom/sub lifestyle ranging from occasional play in the bedroom to perpetual nude slavery or pet play. Based on her character I feel like Asuka would tend towards the lower/middle side of that spectrum and get a great deal of fulfillment out of it. That's why she kept pushing Shinji to take the initiative, she wants someone whose arms she can fall into for support when she's tired of being peerless, to be valued and pampered.
Do you not see?