DatDude wrote:What was going through her mind?
The extra material in ep22' tells us what was going through her mind after, - "You won't even hold me!" - and hence why she started into a decline after that point.
Under all the bravado, she's a lonely little girl, loved by no-one, who threw herself into the role of the warrior elite to give her existance some meaning - and there's no-one else in a similar situation she can turn to for cameraderie. Rei is a soldier, not a warrior; and Shinji is just a draftee, with the temerity to be almost her equal without having gone through all she has had to suffer.
She has been brushed aside by Kaji; had a disappointing outing with a civilian - Shinji is the nearest she has to a peer, and has proven himself slightly better than completely useless by his cello playing (even if he does it for the worst of reasons).
So for a second time, she tries the Misato approach to assuaging the pain that is life; and a second time there is mutual incomprehension. The first time, you may ask? - Then see here http://evageeks.org/forum/viewtopic.php?p=20763#20763 and subsequent discussion.
DatDude wrote:Shinji I think was just paralized buy his fear. He'd never kissed a girl before (just a guss), probly wondered why the hell Asuka would even be showing intrest in him.
The reason he hasn't kissed a girl before is because Asuka murmured "Mama..." when he was about to remedy that deficit.
Note Asuka's condition each time he does actually make some sort of advance - just another reason to see S/R as the much more plausible pairing.